10 Best Anal Sex Tips for Ultimate Pleasure and Comfort

It's frustrating when we men feel like we don't know how to make our sex lives more exciting. Everything becomes repetitive and boring, and our wives can no longer find that feeling of orgasm. She's completely lost interest in a romantic life like before, and the fire of love is slowly dying out, to the point where you have to ask her for sex because she never initiates it. You've gone through long days knowing you can't satisfy your woman. Maybe she's telling her friends how bad you are in bed. You even worry that she might be looking for a better man, someone who can satisfy her in a new way when you're not around. Perhaps this is the time you need to learn about orgasm through anal sex. You'll feel the heat of the most sensitive places and see her eyes roll back with moans so loud the neighbors might hear.

In this article, we'll talk about one of the boldest sexual acts in the world, as both religion and society often discourage couples from allowing themselves this experience. I'm talking about anal sex, specifically how to achieve orgasm during anal intercourse. When you and your partner can overcome the initial fear and make a breakthrough change, it's like a reward; you'll discover unforgettable amazing experiences, creating a feeling of complete euphoria, a sudden intoxicating rush flooding the body like a tide hitting the shore.

I will answer the exact questions of what an anal orgasm is, how it happens, and provide a step-by-step guide on how to bring your woman to the most intense orgasm she can possibly have through anal sex. These experiences have changed my life as well as the lives of the men I've shared this information with, and I guarantee that when you read this article and you and your partner agree to try it, it will completely change your married life too.

What is an Anal Orgasm?

Although the sensation of an anal orgasm is completely different from that of a conventional vaginal orgasm, physiologically, they are very similar. An anal orgasm occurs when an object, possibly a penis, inserted into the anus stimulates the ligaments through a thin layer separating it from the vaginal cavity. This means you are also penetrating sensitive areas similar to when inserting the penis into her vagina.

[Image caption: Using hands for stimulating anal play with wife]
[Image caption: Using hands for stimulating anal play with wife]

Additionally, stimulating the inside of the anus affects the high density of nerve bundles located in the anus and along the lining, similar to conventional sex stimulating the G-spot and internal points. The reason anal orgasms are incredibly powerful, especially when combined with clitoral and vaginal stimulation, is because they send signals to the brain via different nerves. When they work in sync, the orgasmic experience is longer and more intense than any type of orgasm she has ever experienced. However, be cautious because achieving smooth anal sex requires practice, psychological and physiological readiness from both partners, as well as some supporting tools like lubricant and the most private environment possible.

14 Tips and Techniques to Help Her Achieve Orgasm During Anal Sex

Psychology:

1. Relaxation: Psychologically, she might initially be scared or feel uncomfortable at the thought of you inserting something not small into her anus if she's never done it before or has had negative experiences with previous partners. Remember that psychology plays a crucial role in female orgasm, and your job is to keep her comfortable while guiding her through the initial discomfort by monitoring, listening, and performing movements slowly. Give her time to get used to the sensation of penetration, allowing the anal muscles to relax and open enough to welcome the penis.

2. Ensure Emotional Connection: When you try to rush anal sex, your partner will be hurt, potentially experience mild pain, and feel stressed. This will pull her out of the relaxation needed to enjoy it. Be patient and tell her she is safe with you by only going as deep as she can tolerate and encouraging her to say stop if she wants to rest or continue another time.

3. Communication: The only way to overcome the initial difficult phase of anal sex is to navigate the anxiety and discomfort together. Help her focus on enjoyment by talking, using romantic, sweet words so she can fully savor the moment. Sex is a shared experience, not a game of selfishness. For that reason, make sure this is something she wants to do, not just something she's trying because of you.

Technique:

1. Everyone is Different: You might have succeeded in training previous partners for anal sex, but with this woman, things might be completely different because everyone is different, both in experience, psychology, and physiology. Some women have never even achieved vaginal orgasm, let alone anal.

2. Let Her Feel What She Likes: Guide her to relax her anus using her own fingers. Apply a little lubricant to her fingertip and gently rub around the anus, then slowly insert it. When she can feel it with her own finger, she will gradually become interested and accept penetration.

3. Foreplay: Play with her in bed by giving stimulating massages, squeezing her buttocks, or gently stroking the perineum area. Consider kissing and licking her anus generously to arouse her.

4. Use Lubricant: Her anus doesn't have natural lubrication like the vagina, so you'll need to use plenty of lube. Better to waste lube than to scare her off anal sex forever.

5. Don't Go All the Way In on the First Try: Start with one finger to open the anus and let her get used to the feeling, then move to a sex toy (like a small plug), and finally your penis. If she doesn't like the feeling of one finger inside her anus, she certainly won't like the feeling of your penis inside either.

6. Butt Plug: Using a butt plug during sex can help her get used to the feeling of something occupying her anus. This can make anal intercourse much easier later.

7. Trim Fingernails: Don't let long, sharp fingernails traumatize her. They can easily scratch or even cause bleeding in the anus. Trim your nails and file them smooth before engaging in anal play.

8. Don't Be Impatient: A few nights won't be enough for her to get used to a finger, then move to a butt plug sex toy, and then to your penis. Expect that it might take multiple sessions, or even weeks to months, for her to be truly ready for anal sex.

9. Incorporate Anal Play into Each Lovemaking Session: This helps her gradually grow to enjoy penis insertion into the anus, making anal orgasms easier, more frequent, and more intense.

10. Don't Thrust the Full Length of Your Penis: The vagina is usually long enough to accommodate your entire penis, but the anus often isn't. Therefore, don't try to force it all the way in bottoming out during anal sex. That sensation can be very painful for her.

11. Stimulate the Clitoris: Some women may not achieve orgasm from vaginal or anal stimulation alone. While engaging in anal sex, use your hand or a vibrator (like a wand or bullet) to stimulate her clitoris to create a powerful combined orgasm.

8 Steps to Achieve Orgasm Through Anal Sex

Remember that every method requires time, patience, and skill. So don't skip any steps, as doing so could harm your partner.

Step 0: Preparation

Checklist before anal play: Shower, towels, condoms, lubricant.
Shower together so you both have time for foreplay, caressing each other's bodies. Especially wash the area around the anus thoroughly to remove bacteria.

Step 1: Get Her Aroused

You might not know this, but a woman's orgasmic experience involves psychological, emotional, and physical aspects. Foreplay will help her relax and maybe even climax once or twice through clitoral and vaginal stimulation. The more she climaxes, the more relaxed her body becomes, making anal penetration easier.

Step 2: Anal Foreplay

Just like with the vagina, you should perform foreplay on her anus. Have her lie on her stomach and gently massage her buttocks, then use your finger to stimulate around the anal sphincter. If you've massaged her before, this will help release tension, completely relaxing the targeted muscles. Don't rush penetration; gently rub the surrounding area first.

Step 3: Anal Licking (Rimming)

Since she has showered beforehand, you don't need to worry too much about hygiene when using your tongue to lick and kiss her anus. Remember not to lick from the anus towards the vagina, as the vagina is extremely sensitive to external bacteria and can get infected. The anus doesn't self-lubricate, so use as much saliva as possible to minimize potential discomfort. Your tongue can make circles around the anus or switch to figure eights focusing on the center of the anal opening.

Step 4: Prepare for Fingers

Once you're satisfied with the initial licking foreplay, take an adequate amount of lubricant onto your finger(s) and then rub it evenly onto her anus. Also, rub in circles or figure eights around the anus, moving towards the central opening for one to two minutes. At this point, she will be very excited and anticipating the first penetration.

Step 5: Insert a Finger

Finally, it's time to use your finger to penetrate her anus. This is the most crucial step but needs to be done very slowly. Reassure her by telling her it might hurt a little initially, but if she feels anything unusual, she should tell you to stop. Take deep breaths and focus on enjoyment instead of anxiety. Subsequent movements during anal penetration are similar to those mentioned in the four steps [likely referring to finger insertion techniques described elsewhere].

Step 6: Penis Penetration

When she is ready, get a condom and lubricant. Put the condom on snugly and use a generous amount of lubricant on it. Place the tip of your penis at the anal opening, push gently inward, and wait for a few seconds. When the anal muscles relax, continue pushing a little deeper and wait again. Perform the movements very slowly so she can both get used to and enjoy the feeling of your penis filling her anus. Now, withdraw and thrust gently, at a moderate pace, while remembering to add more lubricant when needed. This is not the time for rough sex. Maintain a rhythm that feels most comfortable for you and your partner.

Step 7: Orgasm

She might not reach orgasm the first time. That's completely normal. But the more you have anal sex, the more comfortable she will become, the easier she will accept the penis, and this will also make you better at anal sex, understanding what she likes and pleasing her the right way. Combining this with stimulating the most sensitive spots like the clitoris, and spicing up your lovemaking with dirty talk, will help lead to the most powerful orgasm she's ever had.

Step 8: Experiment with Different Positions

Try anal penetration in different positions, from traditional missionary, doggy style, cowgirl... use sex toys to stimulate the clitoris or vagina to double the pleasure.

Hopefully, this article will help make your sex life more colorful, and you both will soon enjoy the sensation of orgasm during anal sex. Please refer to other articles on the website and shop for suitable items for your intimate life.